Those 3 Things That Make People Sexy

It happens.
People get arrested by completely, inexplicably invigorating people whose curb appeal is elusive but whose sexiness is unbearably present.
Thankfully, it happens!
With some recent pause to figure out the Why when Sexy is the first compliment on my mind, three distinct and time-honored traits kept rising up. Surprise! Not a one is a physical feature.  I tend to love these things in men, but I find women share these traits when they strike me as sexy too.

1. Confident
 There is no greater frustration than a person without conviction. This is about where to meet, when to finish, even what to wear. It's a huge headliner if/when intimacy appears in the relationship. Someone who knows himself and willingly states it is a huge attraction. As a bonus, sharing time and space with someone who knows what he wants provokes me to share what I want as well.
And then there's the fine line when confidence becomes cocky and arrogant. It's still oddly attractive that  someone can so fully possess self-presence, but this is the time to take note when confidence errs more heavily toward inflexibility and self-serving or selfish desires.

2. Smart
The thinker has got to be smart and able to communicate what he knows. Words and sharp vocabulary are my particular Achilles heel. Put me in the company of someone who can make something interesting to me even if I'm genuinely disinterested, I'm sunk. I was once asked by an ex-boyfriend what made someone most attractive to me, and without pause I replied, "Tete-a-tete." He didn't know what that meant. And that's why someone who was otherwise incredibly thoughtful and giving of himself was by then an ex.

3. Curious & Inquisitive
The sneaker traits. Someone asking questions about you? Inquiring about your past or just plain able to find your soft spots in casual conversation? There is no way around the attractiveness of someone who bumps into my heartstrings. In fact it feels so incredible when someone taps into those categories of things that often seem like over-sharing, it can be blindingly desirable to hold on.

At a glance there are other things that make people sexy. But these things, these are the ones that take more than a glance and make every conversation worth that chance.